How to Deal with Removal of the Ex

It's a sad fact, but many relationships don't end very well. If they don't, sometimes you feel quite alone, but there is a way to move forward. When some people break up they like to keep little keepsakes to remember that person. I on the other had like to remove anything and everything I can to somewhat erase that they were ever in my life. Seem a little harsh? Well, that's what works for me. Maybe you're different and want to stay friends, but in my experience that hasn't worked. So, here is what has worked for me. 

1) Delete! Delete every picture, message, their number and other contact info, etc. from any and all electronic devices you have. Drunk dialing is almost impossible when you don't have their contact info.

2) Burn baby burn! Okay, so I don't physically burn anything, but I toss away everything they have ever given me: cards, notes, gifts. All gone! I've heard of a lot of people burning stuff, so if that's what floats your boat, go for it! Just make sure you are safe when you do it.

3) Avoid your "couples spots." Not forever, just until you have recovered enough to not care if you eat at your date night restaurant. I didn't go into a specific city for a while because I didn't want to be reminded of my ex. Kinda over the top, but it totally worked. And in case you were wondering, I go there now. 

4) Smile! Try to stay positive and keep smiling. Don't let one person bring you down. If you make an effort to bring joy back into your life, it will eventually become genuine and easier to come by.

5) Be selfish! You're allowed to be once in a while. Focus on bettering yourself as a person: take that dance class you've always wanted to take, go back to school, join a gym. Do what makes you feel great.

This is a condensed version of what to do, but these little steps are the main things I have learned to do over time. I haven't dated a billion guys, but I do know what it's like to be hurt by one you believed cared for you. If you are going though a breakup now, take things day by day. You will feel whole and happy again! <3

Get the Body you Want!

For anyone out there wanting to get into shape, I have an amazing fitness training program for you! It's something that has been working for me. It has made me look and also feel a lot healthier. Lately I've been hitting the gym hard following the Jaime Eason's Live Fit 12 Week Trainer as a workout guide. 

It's simple to use, really effective, and 100% free. You don't have to pay a dime for expensive personal training. All you need to do is get a gym membership and exercise a little self control. I've made a few changes to the program because it is something that personally works for me and I'm hoping it's going to get me looking like Jaime Eason herself in no time. I implement 10-15 minutes of cardio as a warm up and for the last week I've also been doing 30 minutes of cardio once I'm done doing the excercises given to you for free with the program. 

I am the first to admit that I do not 100% follow the eating plan (on the inside I am a fat kid and absolutely love ice cream, chocolate, and other sweets). With that said, overall I have been making an effort to eat healthy and I work my a#@ off at the gym. I typically spend 1.5 to 2 hours at the gym every day. Of course you don't have to be quite so crazy as me. I happen to like working out and actually get incredibly addicted to it. I guess I'm lucky with that. For those who aren't likeminded, don't be discouraged! If you stick at it, I promise you will see results. You have nothing to loose. 

P.S. In case you were wondering, I am in no way being payed to endorce this product, I just want to share something free, which has been working for me.

Best Weird Metal Songs

I know Metal isn't exactly everyone's "cup of tea," but personally I enjoy it. Metal helped me through calculus in college (I suffer from chronic migraines, and it actually helped me focus on homework and studying). Without Metal, it is safe to say, I would not have graduated! To honor what Metal has done for me, I have compiled a list of the top 5, best, weird, but awesome Metal songs..

#5) Dethklok, Hatredcopter

Click on the link in the title and enjoy! With lyrics like "I, am likely to find, from my failure to fly, that I will be fired for not killing you, cause that is my job, Hatredcopter. You, will most likely die, from the hands of my arm, when I come and fly and, take off your face, with the front of my Hatredcopter." I wonder what kind of drugs were involved in the writing of this song. In all seriousness, I really like this song! The entire series of Metalocolypse is beyond ridiculous -- perhaps that's why I enjoyed watching it. They are making a fourth season, which I am excited about. I can add more songs to this list! And who can forget the Batmetal version!

#4) Avenge Sevenfold, A little Piece of Heaven

A song about murdering someone because they said no to a wedding proposal is kinda psychotic, but the beat and chorus lyrics are pretty darn catchy. I showed the video to a friend and her initial reaction was "what the heck!" Now she listens to it over and over again. I am somewhat surprised that A Little Piece of Heaven has not become more popular with the whole zombie craze that has been happening since the T.V. show The Walking Dead. Who knows, there is still time for people to become obsessed with it.

#3) Dethklok, Mermaider

With almost every song they make, Dethklok never ceases to confuse me with their lyrics. If a song about Mermaids being murdered and murdering a random creature wasn't enough, they use acid underwater... is anyone else confused by that? I mean seriously, if you throw acid into the ocean I'm pretty sure it would get diluted enough to the point that it would not be harmful. I may be wrong, but that is one of the things that boggled my mind the most about the song.

#2) Children of Bodom, Oops I Did it Again

A Brittany Spears cover by a metal band... What the heck... Even though the mere fact that this exists kinda confuses me, I do feel that this version is 100 times better than the original, which I personally think sounds like excrement. My disdain of the original song is partially based around the fact that I do not like Brittany Spears at all. Overall I would say that it is a good cover.... it's weird... but I kinda like it.

#1) Goodnight Nurse, Milkshake

This is seriously the best Milkshake cover ever! I never liked the original of this song and also despise Kelis... so the fact I like the cover makes it completely awesome. I would even venture to say that I like it more than Children of Bodom's cover of Oops I Did it Again. Excellent work, Goodnight Nurse, you have created a masterpiece out of a piece of nothing!

I'm Radioactive?

Today I overheard some idiot in a coffee shop saying that everything in the South Pacific is radioactive. Last I checked, the only recent nuclear activity was in the northern region of the pacific ocean... Correct me if I'm mistaken, but I would say that there is a big difference between north and south. If everything was radioactive, there would be some kind of restriction with travel, food, drinks, and everything else coming from and going to the South Pacific. 

To the poor fellow who has a misguided notion about radioactivity, I strongly urge you to get some form of education (regardless of whether it includes the South Pacific). I can safely say that am from the South Pacific, and I'm not radioactive! I also do not have extra eyes, toes, fingers, or anything else which may be a side affect of exposure to radioactivity. 

Top Five Reasons to Drink Coffee

It is no secret that I LOVE coffee! If coffee were a man, I would put a ring on it. Perhaps I am addicted, but I prefer to think that coffee and I share a deep bond. Because I consume copious amounts of caffeine (mainly in the form of coffee and energy drinks) I decided to see what it was actually doing to my body, and I was pleasantly surprised to find that I should continue drinking the beautiful nectar of the gods. Here is why: 

Reason 1) Coffee reduces your chances of getting oral cancer! A study which was published in the American Journal of Epidemiology which was performed concluded that if adults drink coffee daily their chances of getting oral cancer can be reduced as much as 50%! For more info about the study, click here.

Reason 2) Coffee helps your memory! In a study it was found that coffee increases brain activity in the memory rich frontal lobe and attention-controlling anterior cingulum. Additionally, if you drink coffee during your "golden years," it can actually help prevent the development of Alzheimer's disease. Click here for more info.

Reason 3) Coffee helps boost your metabolism and can suppress your appetite! Anyone who is concerned with dieting should know about this fact. Of course, if you drown your coffee with sugar and creamer it's not really going to help you loose weight, but any type of healthy food can also be abused. Even Dr. Oz has featured coffee as a metabolism booster on his website. 

Reason 4) Coffee helps to fight depression! A study performed by the National Institutes of Health and the AARP discovered that people who drank four or more cups of coffee a day were 10% less likely develop depression than someone who didn't drink coffee at all. If you are interested in this subject click here.

Reason 5) Coffee can make you smarter! The key to intelligence has been revealed... COFFEE!  Okay, so not exactly... here is how it works: Coffee blocks the neurotransmitters in the brain associated with sleep and can temporarily boost cognition (especially if you're not getting enough sleep). Translated to normal-speak: drink coffee when you aren't able to sleep much because it will make you smarter! Click here for more info.

For many years coffee and I have shared a deep love. It has helped me through many of life's struggles. Coffee is there for me when I need a quick boost of energy, and even when I need a nice warm beverage before I go to sleep (yes, I understand that this is contradictory, but it actually relaxes me at night). I intend to continue my deep and loving relationship with coffee for many years to come! 

Life never quite turns out like you expect. Two years ago I expected to be studying towards a bachelors degree (in case you were wondering, I'm not). I expected to be doing more with my life than making barely enough money to survive by waiting tables. I get that complaining about everything isn't going to do anything, but I'm damn frustrated. I worked so hard to have a good G.P.A. (grade point average), did all of the extracurricular activities necessary to make me stand out from the crowd, had no social life for 5 years, and for what? A degree that doesn't even mean anything... I have a crappy job, a car that's about to die on me, I'm not able to go back to school like I wanted (my "break" from school was only supposed to be one year... it's been almost two), and my finances are a joke. It would be awesome if a big bag of money were to magically find its way to my front door... but that isn't likely to happen. Right now I'm feeling pretty discouraged about the general state of my life right now!