It's a sad fact, but many relationships don't end very well. If they don't, sometimes you feel quite alone, but there is a way to move forward. When some people break up they like to keep little keepsakes to remember that person. I on the other had like to remove anything and everything I can to somewhat erase that they were ever in my life. Seem a little harsh? Well, that's what works for me. Maybe you're different and want to stay friends, but in my experience that hasn't worked. So, here is what has worked for me.
1) Delete! Delete every picture, message, their number and other contact info, etc. from any and all electronic devices you have. Drunk dialing is almost impossible when you don't have their contact info.
2) Burn baby burn! Okay, so I don't physically burn anything, but I toss away everything they have ever given me: cards, notes, gifts. All gone! I've heard of a lot of people burning stuff, so if that's what floats your boat, go for it! Just make sure you are safe when you do it.
3) Avoid your "couples spots." Not forever, just until you have recovered enough to not care if you eat at your date night restaurant. I didn't go into a specific city for a while because I didn't want to be reminded of my ex. Kinda over the top, but it totally worked. And in case you were wondering, I go there now.
4) Smile! Try to stay positive and keep smiling. Don't let one person bring you down. If you make an effort to bring joy back into your life, it will eventually become genuine and easier to come by.
5) Be selfish! You're allowed to be once in a while. Focus on bettering yourself as a person: take that dance class you've always wanted to take, go back to school, join a gym. Do what makes you feel great.
This is a condensed version of what to do, but these little steps are the main things I have learned to do over time. I haven't dated a billion guys, but I do know what it's like to be hurt by one you believed cared for you. If you are going though a breakup now, take things day by day. You will feel whole and happy again! <3
5) Be selfish! You're allowed to be once in a while. Focus on bettering yourself as a person: take that dance class you've always wanted to take, go back to school, join a gym. Do what makes you feel great.
This is a condensed version of what to do, but these little steps are the main things I have learned to do over time. I haven't dated a billion guys, but I do know what it's like to be hurt by one you believed cared for you. If you are going though a breakup now, take things day by day. You will feel whole and happy again! <3
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